portrait picture for Dr. Carolyn Spiro Silvestri

Wake:

A wake will be held on Sunday February 24th from 2-6 PM at Collins Funeral Home in Norwalk CT

Services:

Funeral Mass Monday February 25th at St. Philip Church in Norwalk and burial in St. John Cemetery, Norwalk. All who loved Carolyn are welcome to attend these events.

Donations:

In lieu of flowers, the family asks mourners to send donations in Carolyn’s name to either:

The National Alliance on Mental Health:

https://donate.nami.org/give/197406/#!/donation/checkout?utm_source=HomepageButton&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=DonationTracking

 The National Dance Institute

https://nationaldance.networkforgood.com/projects/37186-ndi

Dr. Carolyn Spiro Silvestri


November 17 1952 - February 17, 2019

Dr. Carolyn Spiro-Silvestri passed away on Sunday February 17, 2019 after a brief illness.

Carolyn, along with her twin sister Pamela (now known as Phoebe), was born on November 17th 1952 in Tacoma Washington, though Connecticut was where she spent most of her life.

Carolyn attended Brown University and Sarah Lawrence for her undergraduate studies followed by a degree from Harvard Medical School. Before studying medicine, Carolyn spent a year in New York City pursuing modern dance and though she did eventually trade a dance career for a career as a psychiatrist, dance in its many forms (especially ballroom and ballet) was always a life-long passion.

As a physician, Carolyn spent many years in a thriving private practice, where she employed a particularly empathetic method to psychiatry. Her special approach as a psychiatrist was influenced in part by her beloved twin sister’s struggle with schizophrenia which is documented in their memoir, Divided Minds.

In her personal life, Carolyn was proud to have raised two children, Allison and Jeremy. She was also blessed with the love of her husband Sal Silvestri, with whom she spent the last 15 years of her life. She and Sal always believed that “it’s never too late for happily ever after,” and they truly embodied that every day that they were together. Sal taught Carolyn all about the tropical fish hobby and Carolyn taught Sal all about dancing and together they learned how to love absolutely and unconditionally.

Carolyn is survived by her husband Sal, her children Allison and Jeremy, stepsons Sal Jr. and Christopher, son-in-law John, daughters-in-law Cassidy and Liz, and grandson Finn, as well as her siblings Pamela (Phoebe), Philip and Martha, sister-in-law Linda, and her nieces and nephews Hannah, Claire, Oliver and Adriane.

A wake will be held on Sunday February 24th from 2-6 PM at Collins Funeral Home in Norwalk CT, followed by a funeral at 10:00 AM on Monday February 25th at St. Philip Church in Norwalk and burial in St. John Cemetery, Norwalk. All who loved Carolyn are welcome to attend these events.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks mourners to send donations in Carolyn’s name to either:

The National Alliance on Mental Health:

https://donate.nami.org/give/197406/#!/donation/checkout?utm_source=HomepageButton&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=DonationTracking

 The National Dance Institute

https://nationaldance.networkforgood.com/projects/37186-ndi

  1. Thank you Dr. Spiro for helping me through some painful losses and difficult times and for supporting me as I belatedly matured into myself personally and professionally. You were skilled and kind and strong. I realize I took for granted the comfort I found in just knowing you were there and I always knew how lucky I was to have found you. I respect you deeply and will miss you tremendously and will be forever grateful for having known you. I will remember you Dr. Spiro and keep you with me. Kindly, A.

    February 20, 2019
    Respectfully remaining anonymous -
  • My heartfelt prayers to Carolyn’s husband, children, siblings & dearest friends,

    all I can think to say is feel the love, she’s love and she is hugging you all.

    C was my doctor, colleague and mentor of over 30 years. Every moment was a gift; the best smile ever and what a sense of humor – wisdom was just a reflex and i have never felt more understood by anyone, ever. We laughed and cried and I am a better therapist because of her. I am so heart-broken for all of you and selfishly me too. C, my sistah, I will always love you and never stop missing you. It is our faith, somehow, someway, we will all be together again. Til then, ox el

    February 21, 2019
    Ellen Miller-Pond -
  • Saddened to hear this news. My mother, Grandma Bess Spiro, my stepfather Papa Tom, and my siblings, Nancy, Joel, Michael, and Carol saw Linnie grow from childhood onward. We shared many happy times together on the lake in Cape Cod, thanksgiving feasts in New Haven, and many family milestone celebrations
    Our condolences to the family
    Gilda and Sam Spinat

    February 21, 2019
    Gilda Ingall Spinat -
  • You sparkled so brightly in the Millbrook of our youth. Now, as the shadows around us lengthen, the sadness of your passing too soon dims the landscape beyond measure. Goodbye dear Linnie. We will hide, seek, and capture the flag with our dear friend and playmate on another plane as God wills. Until then, peace…
    -The Eglee Family

    February 21, 2019
    Charles Eglee -
  • It’s impossible to put into words how deeply Carolyn touched my life. She helped me through some really terrible years. I’ve never felt more understood, appreciated, and encouraged than after just an hour with her. Her empathy, insight, and humor made her a truly unforgettable person. I will always miss seeing her but am eternally grateful that I got the opportunity to know someone so remarkable. My condolences to all of her loved ones, she was truly one of kind.

    February 23, 2019
    Sofia Ozar -
  • The first time I met Carolyn was in ballet class in Westport at least 20 years ago. I followed her for the whole class because I hadn’t taken ballet for several years!We continued to dance together over the years. Traveling together to class in Fairfield sharing stories of our families and what was happening in our lives. We both shared a love of dance and I have many memories of our classes together. My condolences to the whole family.

    February 23, 2019
    Randy Ozar -
  • A wonderful, vibrant, caring person. And a great writer too! She will be missed

    February 23, 2019
    Peter McAllister, MD -
  • So sorry to hear about Carolyn – we shared mutual patients over the years and her input was always invaluable – a sensitive, caring, thoughtful clinician, always looking out for her patients’ best interests, I will miss collaborating with her and I know her patients will miss her dearly, such a tragic loss. My heart goes out to you.

    February 24, 2019
    Nancy Gade, MD -
  • Carolyn was the kindest, smartest psychiatrist I ever met. While maintaining professional boundaries, she shared her love for her family – and for us, her patients. She already is sorely missed, and my heart goes out to Sal and Finn and all her loved ones.. It will be hard to imagine not sharing all my thoughts and feelings with her.

    February 24, 2019
    Trish Dayan -
  • Oh such a sad surprise. It was such a pleasure to meet you at the American Academy Psychotherapists. Where we talked about healing others and using music. In your case dance, in my case drums. And then we talked about combining those things. I imagine you taking your beautiful essence now not contained by your body and literally Dancing with the Stars. What a gift you are to me in such a short span. I felt your heart passion and your sweetness. I know you will be missed in body….and yet, who you are will remain. I’m just very grateful I got a dose of your medicine and dearness.

    February 26, 2019
    Cynthia Jones -
  • My heart goes out to the family of Dr. Spiro. I had the good fortune of speaking with her on a few occasions. It was clear that she was a gem of a psychiatrist – bright, thoughtful, empathic and always respectful of her patients. Her empathy, caring, and sincerity shinned through. I have never met a doctor as caring as she was – truly a diamond in the rough. She is and will continue to be dearly missed.

    February 26, 2019
    Annoymous -
  • Learned today (2/28/2019) about Carolyn’s passing.
    I was shocked by this news. Carolyn was a dear friend, a highly respected psychiatrist, and, above all, a wonderful human being.
    My heartfelt condolences to her family.

    February 28, 2019
    John M. de Figueiredo -
  • Carolyn was one of the sweetest and most gentle souls this earth will ever know. Carolyn was selfless as a professional saving lives and providing direction to happiness. I was devastated to hear of her loss today. My deepest condolences to Carolyn’s family and all of those she touched. She will be deeply missed.

    March 12, 2019
    David Schwarz -
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