Wake: Calling hours will take place on Wednesday, August 13 at Collins Funeral Home, 92 East Avenue, Norwalk, CT from 4 p.m. to 8 p.m. Services: A funeral Mass will be held at St. Thomas the Apostle Church at 203 East Avenue, in Norwalk, CT at 10 a.m. on Thursday, August 14. Burial: Interment with full military honors will follow at St. John’s Cemetery, 223 Richards Avenue, Norwalk, CT. Donations: In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations can be made in Ray’s memory to either The St. Vincent de Paul Society, c/o St. Thomas the Apostle Church, 203 East Avenue, Norwalk, CT 06851 or Notre Dame Convalescent Home, 76 West Rocks Rd. Norwalk CT 06851

Raymond A. O'Hara, Jr.


August 19, 1927 - August 11, 2014

Raymond A. O’Hara, Jr. (Ray), of Norwalk, Connecticut, husband of Julia Schumacher Fallo O’Hara, passed away peacefully at Norwalk Hospital on August 11, 2014. Ray and Julia were married for 29 years. Ray was born in New York, New York, on August 19, 1927, son of the late Raymond A. O’Hara and Florence (Armstrong) O’Hara. He grew up in Larchmont, New York, and moved to Norwalk, Connecticut in 1949. Ray graduated from Regis High School in New York City. Upon graduation, Ray joined the United States Navy and was stationed on the USS Iowa. He was a veteran of World War II as well as a member of The American Legion. After serving in the Navy, Ray received his undergraduate degree from Georgetown University. While in college, Ray was a very proud original member of the Georgetown Chimes, an a capella singing group, from which he made many lifelong friends.

Ray began his teaching career at Fairfield College Preparatory School and then went on to teach in public schools in Wilton, Weston and Greenwich. Ray held two Master’s degrees, one from the University of Colorado and one from Fairfield University. Ray and his family also lived briefly in South Bend, Indiana while Ray studied at Notre Dame University through educational grants. Ray was an Assistant Professor in the Education Department at the University of Bridgeport until his retirement in 1985. Ray was very proud when he and his family attended the University of Bridgeport’s dedication ceremony in June of this year for the new “Raymond A. O’Hara, Jr. Lecture Hall”. In addition, the recently constructed St. Francis of Assisi Catholic Church in Remanso, Brazil was named in honor of Ray and Julia.

Ray was a devoted husband, father (known to his kids as “Ace”), grandfather and great-grandfather. He was a devout Catholic who served his parish and community for many years, especially through his volunteer work at the St. Vincent de Paul Society, Norwalk Soup Kitchen and The Association for the Blind, always the Good Samaritan. Ray loved to read and write poetry, enjoyed sailing back in the “old days” and took up jogging in the early 1960s when he was probably the only one on the road. Over the years, Ray and Julia enjoyed trips to “Chateau Hara”, a cottage built on stilts by Ray’s father in 1926 in Oak Beach, New York and trips to Cape Cod, Massachusetts.

Survivors, in addition to his wife, include his brother and sister-in-law, Walter J. and Priscilla O’Hara, daughters Mary O’Hara and her partner, Donald Tolles, Ann Salvino and her husband Fred, sons Raymond O’Hara, Edward O’Hara and his wife Elissa, and Thomas O’Hara and his wife, Cindi Bigelow, stepdaughter Kathy (Fallo) and her husband Jon Hall, stepsons Russell Fallo and his wife Karen, Joseph Fallo and his wife Johanna, and Mark Fallo and his wife May. Ray is also survived by his grandchildren Katherine O’Hara, Abigail O’Hara, Meghan O’Hara, David O’Hara, Ellen O’Hara, Jacqueline O’Hara, Edward O’Hara, Meghann (Hall) and her husband George French, Jamie Hall, Caitlin Hall, Kimberly (Fallo) and her husband David Viesto, Kristin Fallo, Russell Fallo and Maekaella Fallo, and his great grandchildren Julia French, Asher French and Audrey Viesto. Ray is also survived by his nephews Scott O’Hara, Christopher O’Hara and his son, Jake, and his niece Laurel O’Hara. Ray was predeceased by his first wife, Mary Ellen (Splan) O’Hara to whom he was married for 29 years.

Calling hours will take place on Wednesday, August 13 at Collins Funeral Home, 92 East Avenue, Norwalk, CT from 4 p.m. to 8 p.m. A funeral Mass will be held at St. Thomas the Apostle Church at 203 East Avenue, in Norwalk, CT at 10 a.m. on Thursday, August 14. Interment with full military honors will follow at St. John’s Cemetery, 223 Richards Avenue, Norwalk, CT.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations can be made in Ray’s memory to either The St. Vincent de Paul Society, c/o St. Thomas the Apostle Church, 203 East Avenue, Norwalk, CT 06851 or Notre Dame Convalescent Home, 76 West Rocks Rd. Norwalk CT 06851

 

  1. To all the O’Hara’s and extended family, our deepest sympathies on the loss of the Ace. He was a kind, gentle man with a heart of gold and rich humor and an eye for the ironic. He was blessed with a fantastic family, and they were blessed by him. Kind regards, Peter & Helena Carabi.

    August 12, 2014
    Peter Carabi -
  • Dear family and friends,
    I got to know Ray and Julia primarily from spending time at Oak Beach with Chris. My first encounter with Ray was over 30 years ago. I was a self absorbed adolescent with raging hormones going no where at 100 mph. And in the middle of it was Ray. Yet he never made me feel I was an intruder or unwanted. He and Julia welcomed me with open arms and an genuine curiosity. No matter what I/we were doing; going for a swim, exercising, singing on the porch, talking about life, reading a book, or getting ready to go out at night, Ray had a polite presence. Ray was also a man of depth and complexity. And whether it was through a profound thought or a witty statement, he had a sweet simple way of making me aware of the “bigger picture.”
    I have some wonderful memories of that time at Oak Beach.
    Thanks Ray, aka “Leo.” You will be missed.
    Sincerely
    Mike and Sharon Winkler

    August 12, 2014
    Mike and Sharon Winkler -
  • Our deepest sympathies and thoughts and prayers are with the O’Hara family, as well as his friends and relatives.
    What a full life he led, one of generosity and sacrifice—rest in peace Ray.

    August 12, 2014
    Sean and Yolanda Callahan -
  • My sincere condolences to the O’hara family….as well as the Fallo family. I attended Central Catholic High School with Mary O’hara and Chuck and Kathy Fallo. I have both families in my thoughts and prayers in the days ahead.

    Diane and Jerry Allen
    Reston, VA

    August 13, 2014
    Diane McSweeney Allen -
  • I would like to offer my sincerest condolences to Mr. O’Hara’s family. Your husband, father, brother was truly an American Hero and I would like to thank him for his service to our country during WWII. There are not many left like Mr. O’Hara and those soldiers, past and present, should never be forgotten. God Bless him!

    August 13, 2014
    Mary Grant -
  • My deepest sympathies and condolences. Best wishes and prayers during this difficult time.

    August 13, 2014
    George Goldman -
  • Sending my deepest sympathy to the O’Hara family at this very difficult time. St. Thomas the Apostle parish was home to an amazing generation of men of great character and devotion, and I know he will be greatly missed. Keeping you in my prayers

    August 13, 2014
    Barbara Mulkerin Coviello -
  • Our deepest sympathy and love to our good friend Julia and her family. Best wishes and prayers to all of you.

    August 15, 2014
    Wilma Faith and Family -
  • My condolences to the OHara and Fallo families.
    Julia, I’m sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your loving family.
    Ray is out of harms way, in Gods care.
    May you take comfort in the memories and time you had together.
    I thank him for his service in WWII, he was in the generation of men and women that gave their all to keep us free and safe at home.
    Very few of these brave men and women are still with us, I lost two uncles and a dear friend last year.
    God bless you and be with you.

    August 19, 2014
    Virginia Toms and Family -
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