Wake:Friday, June 21st, 4:00 to 8:00 PM at the Collins Funeral Home.Mass:Saturday, June 22nd, at 11:00 AM in St. Joseph Church, 85 South Main Street, Norwalk, CT.Entombment:St. John Cemetery, 223 Richards Avenue, Norwalk, CT.Contributions:(In lieu of flowers)Wounded Warrior Project, P.O. Box 758517, Topeka, Kansas 66675.

Thomas P. Spinola

October 14, 1954 ~ June 18, 2013


Thomas Patrick Spinola, loving husband of Deborah Spinola of Fairfield, CT, died June 18, 2013 at his home, surrounded by loved ones.

Born October 14, 1954, in Norwalk, CT, he was the son Sylvio (Babe) and the late Alice Spinola.

Tommy was the proud owner and operator of Partners Café in East Norwalk which he opened in 1983 with his business partner, the late Chuckie LoPriore. Tommy started his career as a paperboy at the age of 12 and then worked as an auto mechanic and builder before opening Partners Café. In his eyes, Partners was his greatest accomplishment; a place where people could gather for good food, a good time, and a good laugh. Tommy enjoyed people. He was a kind, good hearted soul who helped many people throughout the years, but above all else, Tommy’s greatest love was his family.

In addition to his father and wife, Tommy is survived by his four children who were born in his heart: Nick and his wife Leigh, Christy, Ernie and Stephen Marsan. He was Pop-pop to his loving grandchildren, Cheyenne, Nicholas, Justin, and Taylor. He is also survived by his brothers and their wives: Donald and wife Heidi Spinola and Billy and wife Penny Spinola; as well as loving nieces Carli, Kallie and Simone, along with many more nieces and nephews.

Friends may call on Friday, June 21st, from 4:00 to 8:00 PM in the Collins Funeral Home, 92 East Avenue, Norwalk, CT. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Saturday, June 22nd, at 11:00 AM in St. Joseph Church, 85 South Main Street, Norwalk, CT. Entombment will follow in St. John Cemetery, 223 Richards Avenue, Norwalk, CT.

In lieu of flowers contributions in Tommy’s memory may be made to: Wounded Warrior Project, P.O. Box 758517, Topeka, Kansas 66675.

  1. Dear Debbie and family of Tom Spinola,

    My deepest sympathy goes to you and your family at this difficult time. Tommy was very good friends with my nephews (John and Tom Piro), and I remember seeing him at family events. He was always kind, polite and caring. I pray that your sadness will ease as time goes on, knowing that Tommy is now at peace from all his suffering and that he shall one day be together again with all his loved ones. God bless you, Debbie, Children, Tommy’s Dad “Babe” Spinola, Anna Mastrolillo, and all the family and friends whose lives have been touched by him.

    Sincerely, Virginia Cundari Falcone (Ginny)

    June 19, 2013
    Virginia Cundari Falcone -
  • To the Spinola Family, My deepest heart felt thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. As you all know, Tommy was a wonderful man, taken too soon. He will be greatly missed and he will always have a special place in my heart. Take care, Jo-Ann

    June 19, 2013
    Jo-Ann -
  • To the Spinola Family, You are all in my prayers during your time of lost. Tommy was a WONDERFUL, CARING, GENUINE person.
    He will truly be missed. Thank God for the memories of him. May God continue to bless, strengthen, and keep you all.
    You are all in my prayers.
    Take Care-Ethel

    June 19, 2013
    Ethel Jones-McClain -
  • so sad to see a great man taken from us so soon. It was always a pleasure seeing him in Partners and greeting all his customers. we will miss him when we come in


    June 19, 2013
    Gladys Didia -
  • Debbie, Babe and entire Spinola family. We are so very sorry that Tommy had to leave so soon. He was a wonderful and generous man. When we got married in 1980, Tommy lent us his yellow Cadillac to use for our wedding transport. Before then, he was an avid card player with Augie Ciambrielle, Sr, Billy Debone, Sammy Debone, Lightbulb (Charlie Franklino), and so many others. We’d come into Partners, and I’d always get a hug and kiss, like he always welcomed everyone.
    We’ll miss him forever, but we also all need to follow in his ways and that is to treat everyone you come across like family.

    Love Always,
    Marcia and Augie Ciambriello xxxooo

    June 19, 2013
    Augie & Marcia Ciambriello -
  • To Babe,Debbie ,Donnie ,Billy and the rest of the family I offer my heart felt condolences.Tommy was my dear dear friend of over fifty years ,words cannot express the depth of the loss I am feeling today.He was a true gentelman with a great heart, and it is one of the joys of my life to have called him friend..Rest in peace cuz,rest in peace. Louie

    June 19, 2013
    Lou renzuelli -
  • Dear Debbie & Family, I am so sorry for your loss, I knew Tommy from school and he was a terrific guy, my son Mark loved him and we are all so sorry to hear of his passing, please except our sympathy and know that we are with you. May he Rest In Peace, he is your Special Angel Now, and will be with you always, Love phylis

    June 19, 2013
    Phylis Monroe-Byington -
  • Debbie, Uncle Babe and entire Spinola family. I am very saddened that Tommy had to leave us so soon. But as they say only the good die young, and Tommy was on of the BEST. He was one of the nicest, kindest, and loving men I have ever know. Always greeted you with a hug and kiss when ever he would see you. Tommy lived for his family. He will be missed by all who knew him. My prayers and thoughts go out to you Debbie and Uncle Babe and your children. Love you Tom. RIP

    June 19, 2013
    Ada Spinola Mayer -
  • To the Spinola Family, My deepest heart felt thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. There wasn’t anything Tommy wouldn’t do for someone you where always there. Gonna miss that smile on your face I will miss you rest in peace , Love Mildred Dumont

    June 19, 2013
    mildred dumont -
  • We are all heart broken that Tommy has left this earth so soon, What a wonderful kind family man..We love you all…xoxoxoxo

    June 19, 2013
    diana erik talia and carly babel and marina rivera and family -
  • Debbie and all of your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Such a wonderful man gone too soon…

    June 19, 2013
    Anne Quigano -
  • Dear Debbie and Family, Mr. “Babe” Spinola and Family,

    My deepest condolences on the loss of Tommy. He was a very kind and giving person, and shall be remembered for his contribution to mankind. May he rest in peace after his long suffering and may you be comforted in knowing that he will always be with you in heart and spirit until you are again reunited in God’s heavenly kingdom. Tommy will be missed by many for his kindness to all the lives he touched here on earth. God hbless all of you.

    Sincerely, Virginia Cundari Falcone

    June 19, 2013
    Virginia Cundari Falcone -
  • RIP my friend and go to God knowing how much we all loved you and your spirit.

    June 20, 2013
    Robert Kunkel -
  • Oh my where do I start , Deb you and Tommy have been in our lives for so long and I cant tell you how much it meant to see Tommy when I was last up and had lunch with him and caught up. He had given me so much great advice over the years and I always looked to him as a kid like an uncle.. Walking in the restaurant and hearing him call out to me ” Hey kiddo whats up” and give me a big hug always made me feel so welcomed. Countless summers working with you all at Partners as a kid and being a big part of my Dad & Karen’s lives from their marriage on the boat to countless summers out in the islands and hanging with Christy, Ernie and Steve. I am truly sadden by this and I will be flying up to CT first thing in the morning to be at the services this weekend. I am sorry for you loss and I like so many others will never forget “The Big Spin” but to me he will always be “Uncle Tommy”..- Jason Szabo

    June 20, 2013
    Jason Szabo -
  • My deepest hearfelt condolences to Babe, Deb and the Spinola family. Tommy was a spark that god lent us for a while, he was generous, caring and touched so many lives. He was an anchor for many, no matter how long you had been away from Norwalk, whenever you walked into Partners he always greeted and welcomed you as if he only saw you yesterday and made you feel as if you had come home. He was an honorable man and lived by example of what a truly successful human being is, this will live on in his family and everyone that had the priviledge of kowing Tommy.

    You will be sadly missed Cuz RIP

    June 20, 2013
    Dee Manzi -
  • Dear Debbie & Family, and Mr. Spinola,
    We are wishing you comfort, the feeling that comes from knowing how much others care for you.
    Wishing you peace, the calm that comes from trusting in something beyond our own being.
    Wishing you hope, the strength that comes from knowing that not even the deepest sadness can last forever.
    Tommy was an extraordinary man! The joyful memories will remain in your heart.
    I met Tommy in our early teens; I NEVER recall him speaking unkindly of anyone. He found good in EVERYONE. Tommy will be missed by many!
    You are in our prayers.
    Love, Lorraine and Ron Montross

    June 20, 2013
    Lorraine Montross -
  • Debbie,Babe,Donny&Billy, So very sad for your loss. It is with a tear and a smile which I write. From Little League , Babe Ruth and the Town Softball fields and the Fishing Docks of many Marina’s ; The old racing stories with Tom Akoury and Randy TO everyone of
    his customers , Tommy will be remembered. He touched so many.

    June 20, 2013
    LaJoie's Auto Wrecking; Don , Randy and Murph -
  • To the Spinola, My heart goes to the family and friends of Tommy`s. Tommy was a good friend of mine, and will be missed.I will always remember the good times. Bobby cocchia

    June 20, 2013
    Robert Cocchia -
  • Debbie, Babe, Donny & Billy ; Our prayers and thoughts are with you in your loss. Tommy’s memory shall live in all
    the people whom he touched. From Little League to the Town Softball Fields ; To the Fishing Docks of many Marina’s ;
    To ‘anyone’ who walk walked through the front door of Partner’s ; To the old racing stories and times with Tom Akoury
    and Randy and gang !! We shall remember and smile.

    We will miss you my friend ! Don , Randy , Murph and all your friends at LaJoie’s

    June 20, 2013
    Jim Murphy -
  • Dear Debbie and family,

    This is truly heart-wretchening. Tommy was so kind and giving. His love for people was always so evident in his warm hello’s and smile. He touched so many lives and created such a home-town atmosphere in Partner’s Cafe. Whenever we came back to Norwalk, Partner’s was the place to meet. Tommy created that. You were such a devoted wife and your children adored him as he adored them. He loved you so much.

    Tom, may you rest in peace. We all love you and you will be missed by so many, but the memories will always live in our hearts. God Bless your family at this very sad time.

    Debbie, may you find comfort in knowing how much he was loved by all.

    Our deepest sympathies. Art and Laurie Leone

    June 20, 2013
    Art and Laurie Leone -
  • Dear Debbie and Family – There really are no words at a time like this. I will always remember Tommy as a wonderful person who always had a smile on his face and a story to tell. Lots of memories at Partner’s. Please accept my condolences – I wish you all love and peace.

    June 20, 2013
    Stephanie Lee Pasquella -
  • My heart is so heavy right now, I wish that I could be there for my family. I loved my uncle so much he was an awsome man, father and husband to my aunt and her children. I will miss him greatly. I pray that God continues to heal your hearts and I will keep you all in my prayers. Unc I love you and I know your in a better place standing there with that smile say “what it is beautiful.”

    All my love to my aunt and my cousins.

    RIP Spinner.

    Cindy Parisi-Smith and family

    June 20, 2013
    Cindy Smith -
  • Our deepest condolences to the entire family & also his staff at Partners,

    It is a very sad time & a hugh lose for EAST Norwalk ! Tommy was and always will be a PILLAR of the East Norwalk Community.
    Tommy was a loving, generous, caring friend to all of us. We each have our own SPECIAL memories with Tommy. We will miss
    seeing Tommy driving in his truck to & from Patners. Tommy will always be missed. Rest in PEACE our Life Long Friend!!!

    June 20, 2013
    ART, Linda, Patty, Karen O'Boy & Families -
  • Tommy would always greet you with a smile (and a kiss for the ladies) as you walked into Partners….his car or truck parked on the sidewalk. A tremendous loss for Norwalk – a good man taken too soon. Rest in peace Tommy and strength to the Spinola family during this difficult time.

    June 20, 2013
    JoAnn (Aitoro) Dalessandro -
  • Tommy and I knew each other since childhood. We went to St. Joseph’s together, hung out together, got in trouble together (as young mischievous boys do), dated our girlfriends together, rode motorcycles together and ebbed and flowed out of each others lives till life had other plans for us. He always brought a smile to my face and said something to make me laugh. He was genuine, warm, kind and funny, and I will miss his easy way, hearing him say “how’s it goin’ cuz” and seeing him “around”.

    My sincere condolences to his entire family. Indeed a great loss to all who knew him.

    June 20, 2013
    Jon Muro -
  • Yes, a tremendous loss for all of us. Our thoughts and prayers are with all the Spinola-Marsen family. Tommy was one of the best.
    Ann & George

    June 20, 2013
    George & Ann Blystone -
  • Tommy was an institution in East Norwalk and will be sadly missed. He was the perfect host and treated us all like long-lost family. We are so sorry he left way too soon. Debbie, know your loss is shared by a lot of people.

    June 20, 2013
    John & Louise Frank -
  • My deepest sympathy to the Spinola family. Tommy was a kind man and my family was deeply touched by his generosity during our time of loss. God Bless you Tommy as you walk with the Angels.

    June 20, 2013
    Debra Randazzo Kiska -
  • Dear Debbie and Spinola Family,
    We are so sorry for your loss, hoping your warm and happy memories will give some comfort.
    You are in our prayers.
    Peace, Vinny & Gloria

    June 20, 2013
    Vincent Pocograno -
  • Debbie and the entire Spinola Family,

    My deepest thoughts and prayers to all of you, Tommy was such a great man even to strangers, and one of the most generous, kindest and caring person I have ever known. I will miss him !


    June 20, 2013
    Shawn Teed -
  • We were sorry to hear about Tommy’s passing my thoughts and prayers are with my sister Debbie and her children and grandchildren, and Babe and his family.

    Betty Parisi and Dan Patchen

    June 20, 2013
    betty parisi -
  • Good bye Tommy. We were all blessed to know you. Your memory will always bring smiles.

    June 21, 2013
    Dominick and Linda Martino -
  • To Debbie and all of the Spinola family,

    Tommy is a kind, good hearted, fun loving soul indeed. The testament to that will be when half the city of Norwalk turns out to pay their respects. We hope you can take comfort in the fact that he was loved by so many. We will miss him.

    Chip and Barbara Swain

    June 21, 2013
    Chip and Barbara Swain -
  • Our deepest condolences on the loss of Tommy. He was a great friend to myself & Joan and anyone that walked through the doors of Partner’s all these many years. Rest well my friend, we’ll all be togther again with God one day.

    June 21, 2013
    Mike Cresiski -
  • Debbie and Spinola Family,
    We are so sorry for your loss. Our hearts and prayers go out to you.
    Peace, Vinny & Gloria

    June 21, 2013
    Gloria Vincent Pocograno -
  • Our Deepest Condolences to the Spinola Family,
    We will always remember Tommy’s beautiful smile, warm hugs, and generous heart.
    With all our Love, the Perez Family – Will, Vicki, Roman and Michael xo

    June 21, 2013
    Vicki Roos Perez -
  • Dear Debbie & children,
    Our sincere condolences on your loss of your loved one. It was also a loss to the City of Norwalk. He was a true icon of brotherhood to all who met him. May he ‘Rest in Peace’ in the hands of God, Amen.

    June 21, 2013
    Kay & Teresa Tortorella -
  • My heartfelt condolences to Debbie and family. Thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.

    June 21, 2013
    Tammy Broderick - New Milford, Connecticut -
  • Dearest Babe and Family,

    Our condolences to you and entire family. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. May God bless you all and may Tom rest in peace.


    Rudy, Rick and Brian Sannicandro

    June 21, 2013
    Rudy Sannicandro -
  • For the Spinola family – We are so very sorry for your loss. Spinner was taken way too young and will be terribly missed. He was a kind, funny, generous and hard working guy. The community has lost a good friend.
    Bonnie Baker and Jack Burey

    June 21, 2013
    Bonnie Baker and Jack Burey -
  • No matter when you went to Partners…be it once a week, once a month or once a year…Tommy always greeted you with a smile and a hug, and you felt as though you were being invited into his home. He touched so many people in the short time he was here, and we were so glad to be able to call him our friend. Although he was taken away way too early, he is no doubt looking down and saying, “woo hoo….what a ride!”. Tommy was truly one of the “good guys”, and will be missed.
    Jim and Pattie Zeman-Coviello

    June 21, 2013
    Jim and Pattie Zeman-Coviello -
  • To the Spinola Family:
    Please accept my heartfelt and sincere condolences on your loss. Tommy’s passing is a loss not only for you but for the whole town. My prayers are with you.

    June 21, 2013
    Mike Errico -
  • To the Spinola Family: At this time of sorrow, may you find comfort in your memories. Tommy was a great guy, he will be greatly missed.

    June 21, 2013
    Ed, Ana and Eric Vento -
  • Dear Debbie and the Spinola Family:

    A loss this great is difficult to bear. I can only assume that God was missing an angel in Heaven, which is why he called Tommy home. We pray that your favorite memories will provide some comfort during this difficult time.

    Tommy will be missed by everyone who knew him. He welcomed you into Partners as if he was welcoming you into his home, creating an atmosphere that was warm, inviting and family-friendly. He was kind, generous and sincere.

    Please know that we hold the Spinola family in our thoughts and prayers.

    With our deepest sympathy,
    The Church family.

    June 21, 2013
    Tom, Arden & Mathew Church -
  • Dear Babe, Debbie and Kids, Donnie & Heidi and Billy & Penny,
    So many wonderful memories to hold close to our hearts. Thank you for all of the wonderful times we all shared together.
    God needs him now and we know that Tommy is now with the Angels to do even more work.
    Praying for all of you.

    June 21, 2013
    Karen Lawless Tom Szabo our children and Connie Szabo -
  • Tommy, you are a good friend. Thanks for the help you have given to me I truly appreciate it. I wish I had told you that before this. Art

    June 21, 2013
    Arthur Conrad -
  • Debbie and the Spinola Family:
    Words seem inadequate to express the sadness we feel hearing about you loss. Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies. Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

    June 21, 2013
    Stephen & Barbara Gribosky -
  • Dear Deb & Family,
    We are saddened beyond words of the passing of Tommy. I remembers all those years growing up with Tommy & spending so much time belting them down so sure that we were the young stallions in town! Please accept our apologies for not being able to be with you these next few days. With Karen stuck in the hospital herself making it impossible for Mike & me to come down from Griffin Hospital. We love you all & are blessed to have your little (not so little) Nick as part as our family now. We will love & care for you always.
    Love, Sammy, Karen & Mikey & Anna

    June 21, 2013
    Sam, Karen & Michael Testa -
  • To the Spinola Family my sincere codolences on your loss Tommy will be missed in the community my prayer are with you God Bless Terry Black (Market Basket)

    June 21, 2013
    Terry Black -
  • Rest in peace my old buddie. God has a better job for you. My condolences to your family.

    June 21, 2013
    John "Mitch" Mitchell -
  • To Debbie and the Spinalo Family: We would like to send are heartfelt condolences and prayers.We will miss Tommy very deeply.Debbie just remember Tommy will always be in your heart. Sincerely The Smith Family

    June 21, 2013
    Gail Smith -
  • Dear Mr. Babe Spinola and Family,

    Awfully sorry to hear about the passing of Tommy. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Rest assured, he’s in a better place and ready to open a new and improved Partners Cafe. Take care.

    June 22, 2013
    Rick Smeriglio -
  • Dear Debbie and family,
    We are so saddened to hear of your loss. It was always a pleasure to come to Partner’s and be greeted by Tommy. He made you feel special. Hold on to your memories and let them guide you through this most difficult time.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you,
    Esther and Bob Brzoska

    June 22, 2013
    Esther & Bob Brzoska -
  • Tommy was like a brother to I sorry I did not meet his family I will always be thinking of him I give all my love to his family

    June 23, 2013
    Richard Oliviera. Ollie -
  • To the Spinola Family,
    I am so sorry for your loss. I met Tommy in High School he was a year older than I. My husband and I were shocked to hear about his death. Our sincerely heartfelt sympathy goes to all of you. We are so sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers.
    Mary and Jim Beauvais

    June 23, 2013
    Mary Rose Moccia Beauvais -
  • Dear Mr. Spinola, Donnie, Debbie and the Spinola Family,
    While standing in line to pay respects to Tommy, I was surrounded by familiar faces from growing up in South Norwalk not far from the Spinola Family on Woodward Avenue. While we all reminisced about these wonderful neighborhood days along with the memorable years at St. Joseph School, I realized that Tommy would have loved the fact that most of Norwalk stood together talking, laughing and thinking back on the “good old days.” Rest in Peace Tommy, and our deepest sympathy goes to the Spinola family for their loss, a loss felt by so many in the Norwalk community.
    Kathy (Marotto) & David DiScala
    and the Marotto Family

    June 23, 2013
    Kathy DiScala -
  • Don,Babe and the Spinola Family,

    I am very sorry to hear of Tom’s illness and passing. From the schoolyards of St Joseph to the counter at Nick’s Variety store Tom was always well liked and had a funny store to tell. I’m sure he will be missed by many.
    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and him.
    Jim Lacerenza- Fla June 25,2013

    June 25, 2013
    Jim Lacerenza -
  • I am very sorry for Tommy’s passing. I have been a long time friend . I was away at the time of his passing. Just today and everyday i drive by hoping to see Tommy’s Truck or Car. I had to stop today to Pay my Respects to Debbie and Ernie and Family. I was a very good friend of Tommy,s in Wright Tech. I am sadden by words to express. May he Rest in Peace. Love you all, The Sullivan Family. Rest in Peace my Buddy. Love You always.

    July 26, 2013
    Timothy J Sullivan -
  • My condolences to the family. Sorry I didn’t hear when Tommy passed. I grew up just a few houses down on Woodward Ave. Tom and I went to St Joseph’s together. He was a warm and genuine person and I am very sad to hear the news.

    September 29, 2013
    Donald Herring -
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